“Loyalty = Taking on the Trauma”
Do you often find yourself taking on the emotional burdens of others? In this compelling episode of the “I Used to Think” season, Lisa Whittle dives deep into the topic of empathy—specifically, why we sometimes rush to carry the traumas and pains of those we love, even when it's not our responsibility.
Lisa shares personal insights that illuminate the fine line between compassion and overstepping boundaries. Discover four signs that indicate when your empathy has crossed the line and explore practical ways to support your loved ones without taking on their struggles. Listen in to learn how to love well while maintaining your own emotional health!
Discover more:
(0:50) - Understanding the “defender personality” and its impact
(3:12) - Examining the urge to shoulder others’ burdens
(8:56) - Four indicators that empathy has gone too far
(11:19) - Recognizing when you’re playing the role of counselor—red flags to watch
(17:45) - Best practices for advocating for others without losing yourself
(22:50) - The healthiest ways to support your loved ones
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